Many people are shy or feel they don't compare to others in a conversation. Do you sometimes talk to someone, but you're too busy thinking about what to say next that you're not able to enjoy the conversation? Well, this is common and pretty easy to fix.
When you're in a conversation, you take turns talking and listening. Being the one talking is the hardest. So to relax, listen. Ask them a question, and when they start talking (remember to be interested in what they are saying) you start listening. More often than not, they will provide you with the idea for a new question, this will keep the conversation going. They will think you are a great talker even though you hardly spoke, cause they talked about themselves and their interests, and who isn't interested in themselves?
When I first started using this method I was amazed at the response I got by people I met. And after a few weeks doing this, I actually got really interested in other people's lifes! Now, I love listening to people, and I've made alot of close friends.
Another tips for when you want to talk to someone you know (someone at your school for instance): if you know what their interests are, do some research about the subject (music, hobbies, books etc.). This will make you more interesting for them to talk to. What better subject than something the person is already interested in?
Remember to relax, you don't want to seem nervous. They're the ones doing the talking, you got nothing to be nervous about.
Try it out the next time you find yourself in a conversation.
So to sum up the advices I've given you:
- Smile and be happy
- Remember names and use them
- Listen to and be interested in other people
I might not be able to post for a couple of days as I'm travelling to Holland, but I'll try. Thanks to everyone who's following me and commenting! You really motivate me to keep writing. Have a nice day! :)