lørdag 2. oktober 2010

Conversation

Many people are shy or feel they don't compare to others in a conversation. Do you sometimes talk to someone, but you're too busy thinking about what to say next that you're not able to enjoy the conversation? Well, this is common and pretty easy to fix.
When you're in a conversation, you take turns talking and listening. Being the one talking is the hardest. So to relax, listen. Ask them a question, and when they start talking (remember to be interested in what they are saying) you start listening. More often than not, they will provide you with the idea for a new question, this will keep the conversation going. They will think you are a great talker even though you hardly spoke, cause they talked about themselves and their interests, and who isn't interested in themselves?

When I first started using this method I was amazed at the response I got by people I met. And after a few weeks doing this, I actually got really interested in other people's lifes! Now, I love listening to people, and I've made alot of close friends.

Another tips for when you want to talk to someone you know (someone at your school for instance): if you know what their interests are, do some research about the subject (music, hobbies, books etc.). This will make you more interesting for them to talk to. What better subject than something the person is already interested in?

Remember to relax, you don't want to seem nervous. They're the ones doing the talking, you got nothing to be nervous about.

Try it out the next time you find yourself in a conversation.

So to sum up the advices I've given you:
- Smile and be happy
- Remember names and use them
- Listen to and be interested in other people

I might not be able to post for a couple of days as I'm travelling to Holland, but I'll try. Thanks to everyone who's following me and commenting! You really motivate me to keep writing. Have a nice day! :)

39 kommentarer:

  1. another brilliant post thank you

    SvarSlett
  2. I've always felt that the art of conversation has somehow become less important to individuals in this day and age. Thank's for the tips. I hope more people read this.

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  3. conversation definitely is different depending on the medium as well, letter writing, instant messaging and face to face all have their little secrets

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  4. good read looking forward to your next post

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  5. yea the topic of the conversation is important too

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  6. When in doubt, just change the subject and start over. Anything to avoid that 'awkward silence'.

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  7. i can never think of anything to say in a conversation :(

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  8. Some good advice! I've just moved to a new place so this will be critical for meeting new people. Thanks!

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  9. amazing and insightful my new friend!! ;p

    http://kokojesta.blogspot.com/

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  10. thank you that helps alot
    im going to try this more often

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  11. I really don't care about other people, but I kind of use this method to be polite

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  12. I think your blog and mine have a lot in common. Only difference is i do it for the lulz

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  13. "So to sum up the advices I've given you:
    - Smile and be happy"

    nice advice

    here my gest: :)

    SvarSlett
  14. Its still funny how people still forget to use these simple things in a converstion. Thanks for the guide!

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  15. Good advice! I'll be sure to use this next time im talking to someone

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  16. Absolutely, if there's anything people love talking about it's themselves.

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  17. thanks for the tip, i'll try it :)

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  18. i could definitely use some conversational tips especially cause im in college. Thanks.

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  19. hey, this is one of my more favorite posts from you :)

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  20. nice post :) good luck on your trip :)

    SvarSlett
  21. social anxiety for the win.
    billion dollar business in the pill market.
    wish i developed a drug and got filthy rich off it.

    SvarSlett
  22. Thanks for the post, really helpful.

    SvarSlett
  23. Just be nice. That's the golden tip.

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  24. A social life isn't that difficult.

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  25. this comes naturally to me, and people find me easy to trust. hence i can often pressure people to help me if i need something by using subtle hints that i got dirt on them. (using tons of charme, to appear sympathetic)
    in a professionall situation, this can be the levrage you need to be liked by all those above you and on the same step as you on the ladder.

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  26. Great post!

    looking forward to reading the next one

    SvarSlett
  27. thank you so much. i am shy and i will try this

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  28. usually i can never think of what to say to people. intresting read man! THANK!

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  29. great blog..its better to have a conversation so you can tell each other what you really want..specially for relationship conversation is very important so you would know each others feelings..better tell what you really want don't hide it..

    human psychology

    SvarSlett