torsdag 7. oktober 2010

Arguments

I bet most of you, my handsome followers, have found yourself to be in a position to correct a friend or acquaintance. People make mistakes, and someone always corrects them. This however is not a good thing. Yes, you do feel good after shattering someone's self-esteem, but what are they thinking about you? What are their friends thinking about you?

There isn't really any point to win a pointless argument, all it will do is create resentment and anger towards the winner. So really, there is no way to win an argument. If people have opinions that you feel are wrong, think to yourself, "does it really matter"?

Even if you succeeded in proving them wrong, they would not ever thank you for correcting them, they would be mad at you for embarrasing them. People watching would not think highly of you either, they would see you as something of an asshole.

Example of an argument:
Person: Superman and batman lives in the same city.
You: I don't think so, but you might be right though. Why don't you look it up when you get home, then tell me later? 


This way, he will realise his mistake, but he will not lose face.
My fantastic followers, you can now "win" arguments without losing friends. Enjoy the rest of your day, you deserve it. :)

59 kommentarer:

  1. there was this old saying something like: "arguments never convinced anybody" and it`s true all they do is make you wonder :)

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  2. Haha, I guess it's better to stay respectful, even when the person is a complete moron..

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  3. That's a smart move. I have some wise-ass friends who constantly try and win arguments with bullshit.

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  4. :P thats quite a good solution

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  5. Great way to solve the problem !

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  6. usually citing some made up percentage will increase your chances of winning an argument by 47%

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  7. I cant abide by someone who believes superman and batman live in the same city :/

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  8. Yeah...it's hard not to correct people sometimes, but then you usually come off looking like an ass hat.

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  9. It's almost a lose-lose situation

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  10. Haha, I guess it's better to stay respectful, even when the person is a complete moron.. [2]

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  11. Don't stoop to that level. Keeping respect even if it's not returned will make you feel better in the end.

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  12. thank you so much :) manipulation skills etc have always interested me. mouhahaha

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  13. i've had the same problem with friends and family that are similar to this. they would rather push that their idea is correct rather than lose face. i like to think of it as a disease of pride. sadly saying this, or even "it's ok to swallow your pride, people won't think less of you" leads them to view me in a light not so healthy to my status as an individual.

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  14. arguments are my favorite!

    clearly they do live in he same city- they are in reality the same schizophrenic person!

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  15. When it comes to your post, GTL can also stand for "Great Thoughts at Length"... keep it up!

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  16. it's really a good way to avoid arguments

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  17. Some nice points made. well written

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  18. that sucks but it cant be helped i guess

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  19. i hate to correct my friends, but hey, it's not my fault that they are always wrong!

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  20. I don't need to argue when I'm always right ;)

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  21. o man...you have no idea how many fights with my friends this could have prevented for me

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  22. nice thought - there's always the "go and fuck you" to end conversations, as well.

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  23. Denne kommentaren har blitt fjernet av en bloggadministrator.

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  24. hey thanks for the advice now i can correct people without hurting their feelings

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  25. that is such awesome advice. i will try that today

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  26. Wow, this post is my thoughts exactly O_o;;
    I especially hate it when friends WANT to convince otherwise ><

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  27. You've made some interesting points... I also have some points (actually bubbles) on Enhanced by MS Paint :)

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  28. this will save my relation ship

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  29. I wish I could be like this, but sometimes I just can't sit idly while people are so confident in their position when it's simply wrong..

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  30. I'm constantly in an argument with my girlfriend over something or other. Kind of gets old.

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  31. I have to agree with you here. Check out my other TS blog, Swift Fanatics!

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  32. Cheaters way out :P but a good one Ive used before.

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  33. Insightful. Thanks for the info man

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  34. Will try it next time I actually get into an argument.

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  35. Well I like my friends and they must obviously like me, so its all good =D

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  36. will help in negotiating my kurfew i hope lol

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  37. Well said! I've come to realize this over the past month in my own life. Even if you win the battle, you lose the overall war. It's great to be well-versed in many things, but not great to gloat.

    Balance is key, basically.

    I like your blog, because it makes me write about more interesting topics in comments.

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  38. Great post, bro! Waiting for more updates from you

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  39. That's great.. I need to apply this more to my daily life. Really interesting.

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  40. I get this so much because I have a slight ego and I never like to lose arguments =/
    Thanks for this post It'll really help me in life =]

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  41. you've got an interesting point here, good job with the post

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  42. Damn i never thought of it that way.Its weird how everyone has their own thoughts but rarely consider that others do as well.

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  43. I have learned to catch myself before correcting people. I am definitely glad I did.

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  44. Yeah I've learned to do this to avoid people getting pissed at me xD

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  45. that is a good way to think about it, but being right is fun though

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  46. I don't think so, but you might be right though.

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  47. You need to use proper communication technique when you are going to correct someone. If you face your person and lock eyes, you ay give off the nonverbal that you are aggressive, and the person being corrected will turn defensive and even run the risk of arguing for a defensive mechanism.

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  48. all of us are not perfect so we easily have an argument with the people around specially we can hurt their feelings..but we need also to be careful with the words that would come out into our mouth so we can't cause any trouble.

    human psychology

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